There are ENDLESS articles telling you how to love yourself and see yourself as beautiful.
ACCEPT YOURSELF. Love your curves. You’re like a fine wine. You get better with age.
Ya, ya, ya…. We get it.
But what do you do when the mirror work, journaling and hugging yourself just aren’t working.
When you KNOW you shouldn’t be so damn hard on yourself, or mean to yourself, but you just keep doing it anyway.
I’m being straight up and honest here.
You know what I’m talking about.
This was me, and I found myself tearing myself down in the mirror- a lot. Even though I knew better.
I KNEW, logically I wasn’t fat, but when I looked at myself in the mirror- it didn’t look that way in my eyes.
Everyone I knew told me they could barely notice my under-eye circles, but when I looked in the mirror I felt like I had caves as a hone for eyes. I was so self-conscious of looking tired that it would stop me from showing up in my business or doing live streams.
I wondered if I struggled with dysmorphia.
No matter what I was doing, when someone complimented me, it felt like a lie.
I was constantly comparing.
And even though I saw progress from doing my daily affirmations- I felt like there was something missing.
Here’s the thing.
You only live once.
So why spend it feeling only 70% on yourself?
Why put yourself down for no reason?
Why feel just okay about yourself.
You deserve to feel like a friggin goddess.
And not feel guilty for wanting to feel fully beautiful.
Because we’ve all seen those people who are gorgeous, but because of how they act and feel about themselves, you don’t quite see all their beauty- you know what I’m talking about.
At the same time, there are so many people who don’t fit into the ‘front cover model’ look that society is used to, but they OWN and LOVE who they are, they feel beautiful and worthy, and so they are!
I finally got a complete change when I did the NLP swish pattern technique.
The NLP swish technique pattern works with the way your mind stores information to help you change the way you feel about yourself in seconds.
You can use it to increase your confidence, see yourself as charismatic, or in my case, actually believe I was pretty!
When I was in LA, I had one of my amazing friends Jasmine who is a coach and NLP trainer does the swish pattern with me. I admitted that no matter what since I was about 23 years old- I never really felt pretty.
When I would look in the mirror all I would see is my dark undereye circles, and that would often stop me from showing up online.
And I want to share with you the technique of how it works, in case you are feeling the same way too, or the feelings of not-enoughness are creeping under the surface.
And this is how it goes if you’re trying this at home.
How to feel beautiful using an NLP Swish technique
Visualize How You Want To Feel
You sit down, close your eyes, and bring up a picture in your mind’s eye of how you want to feel. For me, I wanted to feel pretty.
I wanted to look in the mirror and LOVE how I looked.
I wanted to get excited about getting ready.
I wanted to love the way I look.
And I visualized, pictured and felt exactly how that would feel.
Then I cleared the screen of my mind’s eye.
Visualize How You Currently Feel
Next, Jasmine led me through picturing how it feels then when I looked in the mirror at that time.
How I was feeling every time I looked in the mirror was dread. The only thing I would see when I looked in the mirror looked tired, haggard, with HUUUGE dark circles.
When I would look into the mirror that would be all I could see.
Bring Up Both Pictures and SWISH
So then, I cleared the screen and I bought up both pictures.
In the screen of my mind, I made the picture of me not liking how I look BIG and I make the picture of me as obsessed with myself as Kanye small, and in the client’s (your) left corner of the picture.
Then this is where the SWISH comes in.
You use your hands to bring up a picture of the old, unwanted state big on the screen of where you visualize, then you bring up the small picture of how you want to be in the lower corner and you SWISH your hands ( while saying ‘swish’ out loud) and you make the old, unwanted picture face back behind, while the new state you want becomes BIG and bring and fills the screen
You must move quickly- you quickly get the client to ‘clear the screen’, open their eyes and close their eyes and then you repeat from the beginning- bringing the screen back up.
You again keep Swishing the pictures then clearing the screen in repetition until the client (or you if you’re doing this to yourself) can no longer see that picture of the viewpoint that they don’t want.
And just like that, I completely shifted how I saw myself.
Watch Magic Happen in How You See and Feel About Yourself
The big difference was very soon after. The next day my fiancé said to me ‘You’re so beautiful’
Which he says to me pretty much every day…
And that was the first time I actually HEARD IT
Before when he would say sweet things to be a part of me wasn’t completely bought in.
There was a subconscious voice saying ‘he just says that cause he has to- he’s stuck with you’ or ‘he has a weird sense of beauty’ ??
How self-sabotaging is that?!
I had rather thought those thoughts that actually believe I was beautiful!
It was an incredible feeling the first time I actually HEARD it.
I started to enjoy who I was.
Invested in shopping for myself, makeup, I started to love getting ready and I love showing up! I started drinking more water without having to force myself and making healthier food choices to love myself and fully support myself.
I wear something different but fun and don’t have a second thought ( or even care) what people might think.
Try the Swish pattern following the steps above,- however, it is much better when you work with a trained practitioner as it is so helpful in your visualization to have someone walk you through it.
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