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Hi, Holly, thank you so much for joining me today. I’m so excited to hear about your unique experience going through the supply method. So I know you said you went through it over a year ago, and now your practice is completely booked out. So I’d love to just start off by getting you to share a little bit about who you are.
Get To Know: Trauma Therapist, Holly Robinson
Yeah, well, hi Reese. Thank you so much for having having me, I’m so grateful to be here having this conversation with you. And all morning, I have the day off. So I was just preparing and reflecting. And it was just such a joy to think about all the ways I’ve used the asset play method in my practice and all the wins with my clients. And it was just a really exciting opportunity for reflection. So thank you so much for kind of giving me this platform and having this conversation with me. So it was really gave me a motivation this morning to really reflect. So yeah, my name is Holly Robinson. I’m a registered psychotherapist in Orangeville. Ontario, I practice 100% virtually my own and operate of private practice, that’s called heartful healing. And I integrate a number of different therapeutic modalities and techniques, including all of them that I learned in the yes supply method, which has really just elevated my practice and my skills and my sense of self mastery to a new level, not only because I have all these new skills and tools to use, and I did the program two years ago, so I was right at that. I was in the program that first certified us in neural energetic encoding and neural energetic wiring with the old certifications as well. So I got lucky, like the universe totally lined that up for me. But yeah, so yeah, I’m just operating my private practice currently and working with psychotherapy clients. And I love to integrate Yes, supply tools in my practice. And actually the way that I sort of broke this down when I was reflecting this morning, and the way I sort of want to share and present how I’ve been utilizing these skills and tools, today on this call with you, is sort of in these three phases of trauma treatment, because trauma is really my specialty, it’s my, it’s my mission and my passion to really help people heal the pain of the past become more present and more resourceful in the present moment, and then move towards their desired future with those gold nuggets of wisdom and those learnings and that like reprocessing that they get to experience from the trauma work, and then move forward with that. So that’s kind of my joy and my passion and my purpose. So that’s sort of how I broke down what I want to share today. So the first, like, there’s phases, and they’re not always linear. I don’t know if it’s the right time to talk about them now. But maybe I’ll pause there and just give you an opportunity to respond before I kind of go into the three phase model and breakdown supply.
I love it, you’re in flow, stay on your flow.
The Three Phases of Trauma Treatment
Okay, thank you. I just think you from like a polyvagal perspective, I know that you guys, I’m so curious. And I really want to ask you at some point in this call, just because I think it’d be really valuable for anyone that listens to this later to understand like, how the Yes, supply method has grown and changed over the last two years since I took it because I know you guys have been introducing more embodiment tools. And like, I think that that’s what’s been happening, I did watch. So after I took the program two years ago, when you guys redid the when you re recorded the prac training, I rewatched the whole thing, and I’m super excited if you happen to do that with Master prac. Eventually, I’ll totally rewatch the whole thing again. So I love to just really ingrain it in my unconscious and in my mind. So I’d love to talk about that at some point, but all dogear that are later. So okay, in terms of trauma treatment, there’s typically three, a three phase model. And again, it’s not always linear. So we’re kind of popping between these three phases in any moment in therapy when I’m working with a client. And also when they’re in between sessions, like working with themselves or regulating their nervous system or working on presenting triggers or whatnot are going towards their goals. And the way this is typically broken down is the first stage is safety and stabilization. So this is where we would do things like setting goals, which yes, supply really gave me a lot of new tools that were really powerful and empowering to set goals in particular like the master prac training, the breakthrough questions like I started using those in my intake sometimes not always every therapy, every treatment approach is kind of different based on the person in front of me and what their goals are. But the breakthrough questions were like a big breakthrough for me and for working with clients. So usually start with something like that we’ll start with creating achievable outcomes or start with setting SMART goals are really Um, I loved what you taught in the method about your ideal day and really just like setting your sights on what you want.
The importance of safety and stabilization
And then using that as a framework to sort of guide or therapeutic treatment, like our treatment plan, when I’m with a client has been so so helpful with it within the safety and stabilization kind of area of trauma treatment is also like I use resource anchoring a lot. So we usually start with resourcing, and I do EMDR as well. So that has a lot of like resourcing components in it. So integrate the hypnosis with the resourcing from EMDR. It’ll integrate the what they want for their desired outcomes are like, I asked this like magic one question. I don’t know if I got it from you, or who I got it from. But if you could wave a magic wand and all your problems would be gone, and you can have the life you want, what would that look like? So kind of like your Yes, life, sort of how you might describe that. And that helps to guide kind of, okay, well, if you want that, what’s in the way of that? And how can we work through that painful past learning history, that’s intruding on your present moment that’s kind of preventing you from moving forward. So we might like collapse anchors or implement new strategies or elicit the strategies that they had been using to get their outcomes that weren’t working so well. So that some of the ways that the yes supply method has been integrated into it just fits so nicely into the safety and stabilization piece.
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The importance of EFT Tapping(Emotional Freedom Technique)
Another thing that I learned in Yes, supply that I always implement into safety and stabilization component of trauma treatment is EFT. So I just love it, because it’s like any tools that I can empower my clients with to go home and to regulate their nervous system and to be able to manage triggers that are arising or to be able to even like reprocess the pain of the past, if they feel empowered to do that at home, they can do a lot of self therapy. And for me, like I’ve done a lot of that on my own, like I do therapy on myself all the time, I always joke to my partner, most therapists like myself, and he’ll come in, when I’m like, by myself, and I’ll have all my I love oracle cards and stuff. I have like a whole thing here.
I’ll have my cards out and I’ll have like my tuning forks out and I have my like, yes supply manual here. And I like open to scrapped and I’m just like journaling. And sometimes they’ll do EMDR myself, or I’ll be tapping. And that’s another thing I loved about the certification program was when I was doing it, it was the immersive intensive like one week, two week, I think it was two weeks master practice two weeks, right? And then was practitioner one week or 10 days or something. Okay, yeah. Yeah. So I loved that. And I think there’s also immense value in having the cohort, the cohort type framework that you have have now because then there’s like time in between to integrate. And so I think there’s definitely advantages to both the both of them are so valuable.
But when I did it, it was nice to set the time aside and to take time off work and really just focus on developing skills and tools. And what I loved about it, which I know you guys still offer is that being able to go to breakout rooms and to practice and to be supported in that and to see demos and just to be able to practice and build that confidence and competency. And then also, conversely to be able to have the modalities and the techniques done with you like with me, what like I went through a total personal transformation through that program that I think was worth every single dollar and probably 10 times more because like and I got all of these techniques to then bring it into my clients.
And it’s funny because I was learning from this, one of my teachers, Dr. Amy yesterday, and she was talking about impostor syndrome, you’ll probably love this, she was talking about impostor syndrome and what we need in order to really heal from that or overcome that. And she talked about authenticity, meaning going through your own healing journey and really being authentic with yourself and like doing your own healing work and being able to know and be humble when you don’t know something or when you haven’t done something just yet and also knowing what you have done and how you can help people through that journey as well even though their journey is always a little different but and then so authenticity coupled with competency.
So in order to like work with the people that I work with who have really complex trauma histories and complex PTSD, developmental trauma disorder, like those are kind of my areas of specialty and compassion fatigue. So I work with a lot of like therapists and coaches and first responders and caregivers and just people that are being of service on this planet and that I know you probably know this because you’re of service in many ways and you have a team and and you’ve worked with people and coaching so that kind of opens us up to a tremendous amount of passion and purpose but also it opens us up to Um, the potential or the risk of vicarious or secondary traumatization, and the stress of all of that. And so I love that you guys are incorporating the tools to regulate the nervous system and kind of a baseline understanding of when someone’s like hyper aroused or hypo aroused, and like what to do to kind of regulate your own nervous system and how, as a therapist or as a coach, like you want to show up.
So I love that too, in terms of phase one of trauma treatment, this safety stabilization piece, the number like, study after study shows that in therapy, and it’s probably similar in coaching, I can imagine, I don’t know if there’s studies on this part, but I bet you any money, it would be similar. In therapy, the number one most important and most impactful, the the the biggest factor that is a determinant for therapeutic efficacy. So whether this therapy is going to be effective or not, is not the technique. It’s not the modality. It’s the therapeutic alliance. So I love and yes supply, we talk about building rapport and matching and mirroring. And like that attunement, that attachment, that healthy relationship dynamic is the healing tool. And so I loved that, yes, supply gave me all these tools to be able to work on myself.
And then to be able to like swish in the state that I wanted to be in or anchor like before sessions, often I don’t have to do it anymore, because it’s just part of who I am now. But when I was at the beginning, and just building up my practice, and building up my confidence, and my competency, I would anchor all the time, like this feeling of calm and confidence and openness and trust in myself and the client and how are spirits are interacting and the power of the universe and, like I’m very spiritual too.
So that always comes into kind of my mindset prep, but just that those tools to be able to shift state are so important and I think that’s one of the best things that my favorite thing to teach people is how to recognize the state that they’re in and be able to shift to a resource will stay and I know you would probably agree because I’ve done your trading so I understand how important you know that that is so yeah, in terms of safety and stabilization, I made some notes I couldn’t get them all so we’ve got building the therapeutic alliance which again is really study after study shows it’s the therapist or the coach very likely their ability to create a space of non judgement of compassion of unconditional positive regard so no matter what the clients coming in with your regarding them from their highest self perspective, your regarding them so positively no matter what knowing that the behavior isn’t the identity, it’s not who they are. And it’s like we can shift those things and help them with that.
I also love to teach EFT which I learned through you. I love to do yes SMART goals, putting goals in the future timeline, the breakthrough questions, the ideal day questions, and then the resource anchoring so that would be first safety, stabilization. And jumping to keep going I can do like the second and the third. Yeah.
I love this. I’m using it all
Memory reconsolidation and reprocessing
awesome. So okay, then the second stage and again, it’s not linear but second stage of trauma treatment in the standard like the gold standard kind of three phase idea of trauma treatment is memory reconsolidation or reprocessing so that would be where it’s really good to go to therapists really because you want that expertise or that specialty with being able able to really manage what in in yes supply would call like AB reactions. It’s like those are kind of par for the course with trauma. So being able to have that safety and stabilization established so that we can anchor back into the present or reorient to the moment or anchor into positive state or be able to like reregulate or use tapping palliative ly so in a moment to kind of calm the nervous system down all those tools having them ready to go when we go into do trauma work or the second stage which is memory reconsolidation score and reprocessing.
So it’s basically when we open up a memory. So say they have a limiting belief, right? So I’m not worthy. And then we would kind of like in neural energetic encoding, we would bridge it back or float back depending on uh, sometimes I’ll use bridge back if there’s a client that’s really dissociated the float back and kind of send them a little too floaty so it’d be like a bridge back when someone’s like really grounded. I’ll be like, okay, flow back. And we might check. This is sort of EMDR as well. Memory reconsolidation happens in a number of ways with this float back bridge back thing that we Do a neural energetic encoding as well, is really powerful because it helps to identify some of the experiences that really underlie the limiting belief.
Because we don’t just pick up these beliefs out of nowhere. It’s not just someone told us once and that like really stuck in there. It’s usually because there’s some kind of experience that was really stressful or is really scary, or is really shaming and in a shamanistic perspective, I sometimes will talk about how when something like that happens, it’s almost like we shed parts of ourselves. And like, we have this aura of biophotons, and light and it’s like, we shed these filaments of light. And it’s almost stuck there in the moment. And so shamans would say they go into Soul Retrieval or ifs therapist might say, we go into a retrieval of a part or of an inner child part, neural energetic encoding person might say, we’re going to go and go float on the timeline and find the stack of motions where the limiting beliefs from those experiences and rewire and recode them and get the learnings and all of that so there’s many ways to do memory reconsolidation. So to bring up the memory to desensitize the charge around the memory. So when you first have it when you first remember it, it’s like, Oh, my God, because you’re on a 10. How distressing is that? And they might be like, Oh, my God, it’s an eight. This is like a horrible memory.
And then after the process of memory reconsolidation, and reprocessing, whether we’re using neural energetic encoding, or whether I’m using EMDR, whether I’m using internal family systems are somatic experiencing whatever approach I’m taking but with Yes, supply specifically I love EFT for you can use that for reprocessing as well. And I love neural energetic encoding. If there is a level of stability already, I think it’s such a great protocol to get like a new learning, and to reframe the experience so that they can just see it differently and make it like not so much about them, or who they are, because that’s how traumatic memories are encoded, they’re really encoded in a way that there’s something wrong with us. There’s something about us that caused that experience. And that’s how they’re encoded in the system typically, and they usually come with as you know, like body sensations and emotions, and they have an image attached typically. So with EMDR we usually work with those things. But yeah, I love using EFT and I love using neural energetic and coding. And when I learned time techniques for me a long time ago to like those, those things just come together so well. So that’s for memory reconsolidation. And then the I missed anything there.
Integration of the Parts using Parts Integration Technique
And then oh, parts parts work is so good here. So another thing that I love about the way that you taught everything was in the manual, like I love the manual, I used to keep it beside me for like a straight year I had it right beside me every time I’d see a client like I usually have like scripts and stuff like I’ll have a person here on the screen. And then I’ll have all my stuff here over resources are whatever, I don’t need them so much anymore now, but when I was still learning and I’d have the like this book, this is what I got years ago.
It’s all tabbed. Like it’s getting old, but it is well loved. And I love that at the beginning of almost every technique in here, there’s this beautiful question that asked permission, which you know, with trauma is with everyone is so important, but like, especially with trauma because of that sense of powerlessness that can often accompany it and the shame and the violations that come with trauma. Is this such an important question to ask permission, like is this okay with your unconscious mind. So not just your conscious mind that wants to push through and wants to heal and wants to move forward. But is this okay with your unconscious mind, aka all parts of your system. That’s how I kind of hear that, to do this technique to let go of this limiting belief to let go of the second motion to move forward in this way. And that really, I just really appreciate that from like a trauma sensitive perspective. So yeah, so yeah, so the memory reconsolidation and reprocessing phase phase two, I also love the parts integration. I started I was practicing it quite a lot.
And I started to find that with my clients that were really struggling with complex PTSD or complex trauma. I had to use a different word so I call it parts harmonization now because sometimes the parts if they’re they’re not integrated with a complex trauma case, it’s usually for good reason because maybe one has a lot of like traumatic material that it’s holding. And one is like the everyday part that functions and if we were to integrate them too quickly, then that could flood and overwhelm the system. So I started kind of doing this can they work together and I remember one of my clients actually have some I wrote down some case examples if you want to hear them later, but I remember one of my clients she said I’ve set and I’ll change genders and we’ll give her the identifying information to protect the confidentiality of my clients. And one of my clients that like after we did like this parts harmonization ever, she said to me that when she first came to see me she was really hell bent on like throwing certain parts of her out of the boat, like just getting rid of certain parts of her.
And through the process of working together, she really discovered what she said was that she discovered that it’s not about getting rid of parts of me, it’s more like we’re all on the same boat, and we just need to be paddling in the same direction. And I just loved that as a metaphor. Like, we really celebrated that together. Because I was like, What a great reframe, and just, I’m a really big, like, internal family systems person. That’s like one of my favorite things. And Dick Schwartz, the creator of ifs, CO, it’s like the parts work, he always talks about, like self as the leader, so capitalists sell capital or Reese, like capital su capitalist self, you like being the internal leader, the CEO, right of your, it’s funny, I did an ifs session with my ifs therapist the other day, and I got this image of a boardroom, with all my like doing parts around it. And I had this sense of incorporation, like an inner Corp, and I thought how funny because Corp is like Latin for body and for like corpus and corporeal and like, embodied in that inner sense of incorporation.
I thought, oh, CEO, right. So really, the goal in life is to have yourself driving the bus of yourself, guiding the ship and to have all your parts really working for the whole in a coherent and integrated way. And so I love a lot of the techniques that you showed me and teach taught me through Yes, supply for creating that inner harmony, or for even integrating, because sometimes, yeah, the integration is what we need, right? And it is ready to happen. And those moments are so powerful. I’m gonna have some case studies too about like bringing parts together. And all of a sudden, they’re like this whole new part that’s like ready to take action in like a calm way or just this like really beautiful integration. Okay, so let me move on to the third. So and then I’ll pause. So the third stage of trauma treatment is integration. And this is where the techniques that I find from yes supply method that really fit well. And again, there, this is just sort of how I’ve used them so far, I’m sure I’ll find creative ways to use them in all three different stages as I go on, but I really love using swish here to switch in the new identity once it feels aligned. Once all the parts are on board, and they’re like I’m congruent, I’m congruent, that I want to embody this new identity.
So love switch for that. And I use switch all the time for myself. So I love swish. And I love hypnosis for this component. I love what else Oh, yeah, values. Because I remember the breakthrough day, we start with values, and then we end with values. And by the time we’ve done all the change work, the values have shifted. I totally love doing values and the integration stage like what do you love and value what’s important to you and, and then creating action plans, because usually in in therapy a little bit different from coaching, like we do set goals and coaching is more like we’re going to set goals, we’re going to move toward it. And we’re going to have an action plan and implementation all throughout, we’re going to check in, I’m going to encourage you and support you in this kind of creating of whatever it is you want to create therapies that plus let’s go into which coaching totally does too. And yes, apply method, we go into the past, and we kind of get rid of the limiting beliefs and all that therapy is typically more focused on this end. But I really like to have this whole thing going when I’m working with therapy clients.
So in the integration stage, we would really like integrate parts or we would do hypnosis or we would do like swish technique or values or going again to creating achievable outcomes or setting new goals now that Okay, now that all this stuff is gone, now that you’ve released all this pain of the past, and it’s not intruding anymore, now that you’re feeling really good in your everyday life, you have the ability to regulate your nervous system, you know what to do, if a party gets triggered, you can give it the love, the compassion, the support that it needs. You can see it for its best self and integrate it into the wholeness of who you are. Now, where do you want to go? What do you want to do with that? What do you love in value? And how can we make a plan that’s actionable, so that you can start to implement that in your life and a part of that isn’t all thrilled but really, I see it a lot in the integration phase. So that’s sort of my breakdown. I gotta pause here because I just gave you so much information all at once. So that’s my three phase breakdown of yes supply man. That was
so beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing, you know this amazing Three phase method, and then all the different ways that you’re using the tools. And I just love your energy about it. And it just makes me feel so good to know that you’re getting you’ve got so much out of the tools.
Yeah. Oh my god. Yes, thank you, thank you for sharing that feedback. I’ve, I do I have so much energy about this, because I’m very much like you, I imagine you’re similar. Like, you have to just empower people with things and you want the best for people and you want people to live their best, yes, life, you know, so it’s, it just makes me really happy and brings me a lot of joy. Like I could cry thinking about it. Just like knowing that like when you have the tools and techniques that you need to be competent, and to help to create help people get from point A to point B to get from, like, people come to see me typically are really suffering. And to get them from suffering to thrive it like and all the steps in between it just it makes me so happy. And also relieved to know that I have like a massive tool belt of techniques that I can use to like I kind of I always go into sessions with an intention of like, I always say, say this is quite a prayer, I guess it’s I guess it’s kind of a prayer. I always say like, like, even before this, I connected, I did this for us.
Connecting to your guides and higher self. 27:11
So I always say to myself, like thank you higher self and spirit guides for connecting with me for connecting with the higher self and spirit guides of Rhys to bring through the messages, the information, the techniques, the modalities, the energies, the questions that are accurate, clear, specific and meaningful, for her highest healing and well being are for the highest healing well being of all the people that might watch this so that they can serve the highest healing and well being involved. And then they sort of go into a session or go into this meeting and I kind of just let go and open up because I know I can trust myself I know that I can trust that my guidance I know that I can trust you and I can trust your guidance and I can trust the way that our our spirits and our energies are interacting to create this like beautiful intention that we’re setting for us to teach people this stuff and I know you’re as passionate as as I am about really teaching and getting this stuff out there and really like helping to support people through the process of transformation. And I think we’re totally aligned on that. Based on what I know about you through like the trainings and stuff and just what you post online and everything which I really appreciate and I really admire your your creativity and how much you put out there. So thank you on behalf of the world for that. But yeah, I just have such tremendous passion and joy about this stuff. So I think that’s where that’s probably what you’re picking up on.
I think any you know what as you were saying that to you asked your guides and your higher self to connect when you were sharing everything you were sharing in your three step method. That same thought went through my head like I feel really connected to you on like a guide level or a higher self level so I think we were definitely meant to connect and have this conversation today.
Oh 100% I have no doubt about it and it’s so funny race because what I think I found your program through Instagram I’m sure that’s all I find. I kind of love the algorithm because it just gives me so much good information in trainings and stuff and I mean it can be a double edged sword but I found you through Instagram so that’s a positive thing and I remember when I first saw your progress, it was a no brainer. I literally clicked on the link and I was like yes it was Yes of course. But it was just so clear and I just loved your vibe and your energy and I love that like not even just the yessupply method itself like the certification component but all the added bonuses like the yes dream clients and the I can’t remember it was more like an energy one like the ground and what’s it called?
grounded, elevated and protected energy so specifically is testing your energy? Yeah,
I love that. And I remember you talking I can’t remember where he spoke about it but how you hit it also trained in Reiki and like at the time I was a Reiki Master and I still am but I was into Reiki and in my primary psychotherapy program I studied spiritual psychotherapy. So we did a lot of chakra psychotherapy and body where it’s in Toronto, the program I took but and bodywork and all kinds of like we literally had classes that were meditation classes, gifts of spirit, where we learn to like connect with our spirit guides and connect with like eyes of others and just intuitive arts was one of our classes. I literally felt like I was going to Hogwarts. It was my dream. And so when I saw that you had incorporated that energetic perspective into this program. I just I knew it was yes, I was like yes, this is a no brainer. It wasn’t even a question. I didn’t care what the price was. I didn’t even look I was just like yeah, this is obviously I’m taking this program. So I feel that that connection would be a big time. Yeah.
Oh my gosh, I love it like it found you and we all connected for reason. A lot of people say that they’ll signup, they don’t even look at the sales page. They’re just like they know. Right? Something is pulling them through. One. So you were on our Master q&a. A few weeks back, I do one every month actually have one later today. And so you were sharing that your practice is like fully booked with a waitlist and everything like that. And do you want to share how Yes, supply helped you with that?
Yeah. Oh my God, that’s such a good question that I hadn’t considered. But it totally did help me with this. So yeah, my last time I spoke to on the master prac q&a Call my your list, my waitlist was a year long. And since I spoke to you, I actually opened up a few more spaces in my practice and started reaching out to some people on my waitlist. And a couple other people sort of we did the integration phase, and they were complete. And so they finished with me in therapy. So I had more space, just it just magically happen that way, like, divine timing, of course. So I ended up taking a bunch more people into my practice, and some people don’t like I’ll say, I’ll put you on the waitlist. But if if they’re really struggling with something, I’ll say, I’ll put you on the waitlist, but continue to search for other people like I’m, I just think it’s important to get help when you need it. Right. So some people were interested in coming into my practice, I took I think five more people in and then some people were they found other people to work with. So it’s like, that’s amazing. Like congratulations, good luck on your journey sort of thing.
So my wait list is shorter now since I saw you last so now it’s about seven months long. And the way that yes supply really helped me with that was a gave me a whole bunch of new certifications that I think I know for me because I I think it’s really important as a therapist to be doing my own therapy and to be doing my own work. So I’m I do therapy, I have an ifs therapist, I have somatic experiencing, like practitioner like therapist, and I have I continue to do supervision and get mentorship and coaching. And I just think that that’s really important to be like a well rounded practitioner or guide for others. So what was I gonna say about that? I, there was no purpose for me saying that wasn’t saying before.
You’re talking about building out your waitlist and you invest in therapy as a therapist to make? Yeah, I’m talking about building seven months. How Yes, supply helped you?
Yeah. Okay. I’ll go there. And then maybe,
back. Thank you. Thanks for the
reflection back. So no, there was a purpose of this. Do My Own therapy anyway. So with Yes, supply, I remember going in, and I think Steph was my trainer at the time when we’re in doing that not in person, but the virtual stuff. And she’s like, What’s your intention for this program, and she was just set intentions right at the beginning. And I said, I really wanted, I just had this idea in my mind, because I had all of these certifications. Oh, yeah. This is why I was gonna say the therapy thing. So I do my own therapy. And I really value when somebody has many different modalities they can draw from, because I know that not every therapeutic modality or technique works for every person in every moment. So I really value if they have a wide array and a big toolbox of different therapies. So I know for me, that’s really important. And that’s how I chose my therapist that I currently have. And so doing the SSI method gave me at the time because I was in that in between stage and gave me seven certifications when I was finished with my master prac. And because I got the ne ne W, and then the NOP and the time, plus all the other stuff. And I think that that just really set me apart in terms of like, I have a profile and psycho Psychology Today. And that’s typically how I get a lot of my clients. Another way I get my clients is through doing trainings. And then when I’m doing dyads with people, they’ll end up coming to me reaching out after because I just I have such a passion for this stuff. And I love to help and love to connect, and I love to share. So let’s see
what’s a dyad Oh,
the Oh yeah. So when breakout rooms like when you do the Yeah, wait, sorry. It’s in school in psychotherapy called you called the dyad. So you get together and what is the therapist or the coach and when he is the client, and then you swap? So yeah, when I do that kind of thing. Sometimes I’ll get clients that way. But typically, it’s through Psychology Today. And there’s like, it’s like a little profile. And you can only put so much but I I was just so excited to like put all of my different techniques in there and people would reach out to me all the time to get services from me to do psychotherapy. And in my assumption is because I’m so well trained.
So I have a lot of like evidence based training and then they have a lot of what I call like cutting edge, right so stuff that like things only become evidence based after they first are cutting edge for a really long time. So when people are like oh you need to do all that. Evidence Based all the time, I’m like, no, because clients are not research subjects, you need to have lots of tools to choose from to be able to implement. And yes, research is amazing. And we should know that too. So I just love having this wide array of tools. And like I said, like, I set this intention when I go in. And I connect with like, our guidance teams and our higher selves, and I sort of just open up and then certain things clients will say, like, you probably know this, when all of a sudden someone will be talking about one part of me wants this one part of me months that it just okay, there’s the tool. Okay, this is the technique, I think would be helpful here. This is what we do. These are the advantages, disadvantages. What do you think would you be interested in they’ll be like, hell, yeah, let’s do it, or no, actually want to talk about this or focus on this. Okay, great. And then other kinds of triggers that pick up, my ears come up, and they’ll be like, Oh, I have this like time in the past, where blah, blah, blah, and I’m like, Okay, we’re gonna do some EFT, or we’re gonna do some EMDR. It’s just so nice to have this wide variety of tools.
So I think that that’s really drawn a lot of people to me, I also think, a part of it. So two more things. One is the embodiment the identity work that I did, personally, through the yes supply method, experience or other training program, I think gave me this level of confidence and competence and experience that allowed me to be really in alignment, and to express my passion and my excitement and my joy about all of these different things that I now know and I can implement to help people get through from point A to point B, to take them through this change process, or this transformation and healing journey.
And so I think that dragged through a lot of people to me as well. And also, the other thing was when I set the intention, so when Steph asked for the intentions, at the beginning of the training, I said this word elevator pitch kept coming to my mind, because I was like, I have all of these different modalities and these different tools and I’m not really clear on like my ideal client, and not really clear because I was very like general population practice because I, I think at the time I was three years into my psychotherapy practice. And I had been very focused on like spiritual seekers and healers and therapists and like, because I’m trained in compassion, fatigue prevention and resiliency skills, like that’s also one of my specialties, because it does fit in with the, the Trauma and Stress Disorder type of category. They’re just the sequela of symptomology, they sort of fit in together.
The importance of setting boundaries
So I really love to help people with compassion, fatigue prevention, or if they are fatigued from compassion from their job of helping others and they have the vicarious trauma or the burnout that come that accompanies, that. I really love to help them because I’ve gone through that person personally with myself, like I’ve gone through burnout and vicarious traumatization that I’ve since healed and really done a lot of work on and now I have better boundaries. And it makes sure I take a day off every week and I have the weekends off like I only work certain times like I’m way better with boundaries now hence the waitlist, which also Yes, supply helped me with because the whole idea of like, well, how do I want my yes life to look. And burnt out is not the way that we want it to look.
So what do I need to do to create my yes life. And that meant setting boundaries and have been willing to have a waitlist instead of what I was doing a few years ago, which was just accepting every person that would come to me into my practice as they built my business. It really allowed me to slow down and be like, No, I also need time to be able to take care of myself to spend time with my family to do things that are really important to me to do things that are fun and outside of work. Because I am so driven and work focused, and I’m so passionate about this work, I can get swept up in it because I have like these learning parts of me that just want and just learning all the time and health all the time. And so I needed to create boundaries around that.
So with the intention piece, the elevator pitch, that was my intention, I was like I want to be able to describe what I do in a few sentences, because I just think it would be it would be helpful for me and I want to get really clear on who it is I want to work with because at the time again, I was just accepting whoever was coming to me. And I had some areas of specialty but I wasn’t super clear on that. So the whole journey really helped me understand my ideal client and that is falls in that compassion fatigue category people that I like to use is this Viktor Frankl quote he says, Those who give light must injure burning. And I know that’s not the most positive IRS not the best internal representation of that out but that those are the people that I want to help the ones that are here in the world to ground their life to anchor their light to really help this world shift and change and heal. And in the process it can are getting me deeper aren’t out or getting traumatized themselves or their own trauma.
Usually, it’s our own traumas that really bring up not always, but what I found. Typically it’s our own traumas and our own family of origin stuff, or the cultures that we grew up in, or whatever it is, that’s been like our past painful learning history that typically guides us into a healing professional helping profession and caregiving profession or a role like that. So my passion, my joy is really to just help people like I worked with, again, a lot of therapists and coaches and first responders and doctors and teachers and parents like that kind of caregiving, helping healing professionals. And so it just became really clear to me through the process, that those are the people I really love to help, I love to help all people, but those are the people that they’re just, I just love working with them so much and, and also that spiritual peace.
So spiritual seekers and mystics and healers, like people that are into energy, it just, it just makes me so happy. So those are some of the ways that yes, supply helped me grow, my waitlist was just getting really clear, being able to set boundaries for myself and having this wide array of modalities in this tool belt that were drawing different people to me for certain reasons, because some people would come to me, because I did hypnosis, some people would come to me, because I did time or in neural energetic encoding, some people would come to me specifically because I had that coaching aspect where they’re like, I do want to focus on the future. And I’m like, Okay, let’s do it. We can do that. So yeah. Does that answer your question?
Yeah, the answer is that perfectly. And you’re just bringing up for me how, you know, a lot of times when people are starting coaching, because my community is mostly coaches, they might say, like, like, I don’t know where to start, I don’t have enough experience or anything like that. And so it sounds like what you’re saying is because you had all of these great modalities, and all these great trainings, even if they haven’t found their footing, yet, having all of these things will draw people in. And that’s how you can kind of get the ball rolling with your practice. And then, you know, keep learning, have your own experiences, everything like that, that just makes you even stronger at what you do. And yeah, sounds like you’re continually investing in your own therapy and your own coaching, too. So
that’s fantastic. Oh, yeah. And training program I’ve received literally spent $100,000 on trainings over the last six years because I’m so cuz I know who I am, like, I’m so committed to mastery. And that means knowing a number of different things. And you’re totally right, what you just said about like, investing, you need to invest in some kind of preliminary program that gives you lots of skills and tools like for me the two well, there’s been a couple of really big ones that I invested in. One of them was the the spiritual psychotherapy program that gave me the competency to be registered with the College of registered psychotherapists of Ontario to be a registered psychotherapist. Yes, supply was another one because it just had, so it was so rich, there was so much in there.
And also, oh, this is another thing that I want to speak to because I wrote it down. I mean it because I’m thinking like, I know, we sort of chatted back and forth on Facebook about like, therapists that might come and be like, Does this really fit for me? And like, yes, yes, yes. I want to just say yes, it does. Because when school we don’t usually learn a lot of business stuff. And I found those extra added bonuses that you added in like the Yes, Dream clients. And I forget what all of them are called. But like there’s a couple extras that just gave me so much good insight into my business itself, because that is not something and talk to any therapist will likely say the same thing. We get such minimal training on how to run a private practice, I got lucky because I did a program that was really geared towards private practice, as opposed to other programs that typically geared toward working in a hospital or working in a clinic or something and I was like I want to I have an entrepreneurial spirit, it’s in my blood, it’s in my bones, it’s in my ancestry in my lineage and I want to work for myself I want to have this freedom. So that was another wonderful addition to yes supply and what I found really valuable about it was those added bonuses like that, yes, Dream clients and just getting really clear and having like, like you have in your entrepreneurial like business perspective, and like being able to offer that throughout the program.
I just found that really helped me up level it from a business perspective, like as an entrepreneur, and as someone in private practice. So I really appreciated that and from the coaching perspective, so like I mentioned before, I think it’s so important to have some kind of preliminary training that’s like a really good investment with lots of tools. Because like I mentioned before, and you kind of reflected back like people are gonna find you because As they’re looking for a clinical hypnotherapist, they’re gonna find you because they’re looking for someone that does Emotional Freedom Technique or tapping because they’ve heard about it, and then they find you and they’re like, oh my god, you do hypnosis and EFT and you do like mindset coaching or what do you guys sort of find it is a mindset coaching. Yes, mindset coaching, okay, mindset coaching, I think was life life and success coaching at the time, so it’s cool. I like I like the mindset.
So mindset coaching or like, Oh, my God, you have this, like you, you have a niche and you want to help me through my health journey, and you’re gonna help me do that with like hypnotherapy and EFT and oh my god, I’ve heard of those things. And that’s something I’ve always been really excited to try. And so people are gonna come to you because of that, because you’re, like, think, think about from any, for anyone who’s listening, think about the people that you’ve hired to help you through a healing journey. Are you hiring someone with one modality? Maybe, maybe not, like when you rather hire someone with five so that you know, if that one isn’t really it turns out doesn’t really fit for you, you don’t have to go and find a whole nother person. Like, they have a whole they have a bunch of options and opportunities and like for empowerment and for change and transformation.
So I don’t know I think yes, supply is such a great foundational training, like from a coaching perspective, like it’s just such a great foundational training and like to do any job well to be competent, you need a foundational training, there’s honestly I’m saying this to my partner lately, like I am so incredibly grateful for every teacher I’ve ever had for every mentor every supervisor like and you’ve been one of them race because you’re I have like an inner. So I had the inner incorporation, I suppose this board meeting room, have my own parts, my own strategy parts, but I also have this inner board meeting room in my mind and I go to when I need advice of my teachers and all of my mentors and you’re in there like I can get advice from you if I need and I can get advice from like Dick Schwartz, who does ifs and from Peter Levine who does somatic experiencing and from just like all of the Richard Bandler if I wasn’t like NLP stuff, like I, and just my my people from my everyday life, like my supervisors, and my teachers from my other programs, too, like they’re all in there, they’re all like you’re all a part of me now and a part of like, how I bring tools and techniques and wisdom into my sessions with clients and I always say like there’s I’m saying to my partner there is I’m just so grateful for all of the learning and the training and the mentorship because this is a huge piece of compassion fatigue resiliency to it’s like there’s there’s five main skills one of them is self regulation, we get that in yes supply this is gonna apply to every coach self regulation, we absolutely get that in yes supply you learn how to shift state, this is like number one most important thing, you learned how to create the identity and embody that identity that you want.
Like you learn how to switch that in. You learn how to like you learn how to do so much for self regulation, you have EFT you can regulate your nervous system that way, like, it’s so good for that. The second thing is intentionality. Knowing what you value, knowing what you’re here for knowing what you love, and what you want to create and what your intention is when you’re working with people. And just always going back to that why. And these are, these are resiliency factors. And then the third thing is professional maturation. So that’s evolving your mindset, evolving your perspective to know that you can be in alignment, like integrity over external pressures. So you can be in integrity with who you are, you can be in Integrity with your values, and you can return your perspective to know that, like responsibility for change, right?
Like that whole, I love that to the breakdown that really helped me set some good boundaries in my own mind of like, what I’m responsible for. And for coaches, like, what are you responsible for? And where do you need to set boundaries and empower a client to be responsible in their own life to bring in the learnings that they gained through the sessions into their everyday because those are ultimately the things that are going to make the big changes. It’s like the ways that they’re showing up doing those little things each day that build up to make those big changes. So that sense of maturing your perspective to know what you’re responsible for what you’re not to stay in your in your integrity and your dignity, and be able to stay connected to that as you’re meeting the demands of everyday life as you’re meeting the demands of like being with clients and because it’s super joyful, and it’s super exciting, but it’s also demanding and so knowing how to stay in your integrity, that’s the professional maturation pieces. It’s also self validation comes with the professional maturation. So being able to validate yourself at the end of every day like as a coach or as a therapist, like what did I do well today, what went really well with clients? What kind of outcomes? Are they getting that I know I’m really helping them with? How are we staying on track?
Like, how did I build rapport, like just really checking in and validating yourself at the end of every single day, that’s part of professional maturation, or that mindset maturation and that self validation piece, and this will this, these are protective, from getting burnout, they’re protective from picking up vicarious, traumatization. And then the fourth thing is connection and support. And this is the one I really wanted to get to, and why I think it’s so valuable to have mentors and like for in my industry, we have supervisor, but we also have mentors me mentors, teachers, professors, supervisors. And then I always think every time I read a book, I’m like, Hey, you can be one of my mentors now too, because I just read your book like he didn’t hop in my my mind, my internal panels, wisdom. So that like that is so crucial. And I’ve really learned that like trying to be an island, in the coaching field, trying to be an island in the therapy fields. It’s so draining like you need to connect with peers, you need to connect with people.
And I love that about yes supply because you get to connect with people all over the world, I have friendships that I still have maintained from doing my SSI training, like people I connect with from all over the world that I literally get on zoom with all the time and have these amazing conversations. And we help each other out. And we do like, mindset coach, like not in a context of a coaching relationship, but just these really positive friendships that I got from doing that program too. So that’s important. And then just to finish the loop on this, the fifth, compassion, fatigue resiliency skill is self care, which I mean speaks for itself. I did like in a training, so they’ve learned it specifically, what they mean by self care specifically, is usually aerobic exercise three times a week, which you can swish in there, create some strategies to. But just all the other things that follow self care, all those things are really protective and important.
I love that lately, my aerobic exercise has been caring to children up and down the stairs for playing lifting them up, because that’s what they want and to spin around and all that fun stuff. But yeah, so
good. Because you get like the bonding, the attunement, modeling, like exercise and working out your modeling to them, like, hey, we can do it together. And it doesn’t have to be like, oh, I need to go to the gym for that. Like, you’re just finding ways to integrate that into your day, which is like so good.
Exactly. Actually, also, my oldest son and I will go on YouTube and find like toddler yoga. So it’s like, be a frog, be a snake be this be that. So we do that together sometimes. Oh my god, I love that so much. It’s so fun to definitely post a video of that.
actually share that so funny. But yeah, thank you so much for sharing all of that, that is absolutely incredible. It’s so great to hear how you’re incorporating all of the tools so well into your practice and your experience and everything like that. So what would you say to someone who’s thinking of joining the supply method? Yes. Yeah. Using, uh, well, it, you know, it’s been so great chatting with you, thank you, thank you, thank you. And I’m sure people are gonna want to get to know you even better and follow along on your journey using all these great coaching modalities as well as being a psychotherapist. So where can people follow along with you?
Great question. And thank you so, so much for having me, this was such a joy. And I’m really, really grateful for you and all the work that you do in the world and all the ways that you’re training people and in for having this conversation with me. So thank you. Thank you. Thank you. And yeah, people can find me on my from my website https://heartfulhealing.ca/ Or they can follow me on Instagram @heartful.healer
amazing. And you know, as we were chatting, you’re just so well spoken. So I feel like you should start a
podcast. I had a podcast I had ordered that I paused because I wanted to do all these trainings and I was just doing so much research. But thank you so much for saying that. And I do plan on starting a YouTube channel and I want to make like accessible code courses and stuff for I really want to start to psychotherapy college honestly, that’s like one of my ultimate goals. I think that would be so cool. But I will Yes, I I’ve been using Instagram just to make like bite size videos of like techniques but i i I gotta get on YouTube now. Yeah, you’re inspiring me.
I’m so happy to hear that. Well definitely share your link in our Master Practitioner group so we can follow you and support you on that YouTube journey to so
much My Awesome thank you so much Reese it was such a pleasure to chat with you and I really appreciate this conversation
hey thank you so much I can’t wait to share this with everyone and you were lovely and thank you for coming so prepared!