How To Set Personal Goals (A Complete Guide)

Do you know what it takes to set truly achievable personal goals? I believe that your goals and dreams were given to you for a reason… and if you’re here, you have everything it takes to achieve all your personal goals! Goal-setting is an art, and that’s why I wanted to provide you with some of my favorite tools to help you set and achieve personal goals with ease! 

When it comes to setting personal goals, most people know exactly what they don’t want, but aren’t clear on what they do want.

This is what leads to looping in your life — staying stuck in the same job you don’t like, the same negative relationships, and living the same reality day after day.

When you see the same patterns showing up over and over, it’s because those patterns are programmed into your subconscious mind. Your past story, your past beliefs, and your past identity are shaping what you believe is going to happen to you in life. 

If you’re ready to break free from those patterns and set personal goals that help you create a new life, you’re in the right place.

One of my favorite teachers, Bob Proctor, talks about how creating your personal goals is an art in and of itself.

“The art of goal creation is truly a creative process. The definition of creation is the manipulation of energy. You’re causing one type of energy to move to another type of energy.” 

Bob Proctor

Remember that you are a powerful creator, and everything you want to manifest in the physical reality begins with your thoughts.

Yes, thinking is a creative act!

Your thoughts begin a chain reaction that will manifest your personal goals.

This is why I want to teach you how to set your personal goals using the language of the mind, which is Neuro Linguistic Programming, or NLP.

It’s an excerpt of a process that I teach within the YES SUPPLY METHOD to help my students reach their personal goals, including becoming successful mindset coaches and certified practitioners of powerful techniques like NLP, hypnosis, TIME Techniques, and EFT Tapping.

When you set your personal goals the right way using NLP techniques, your subconscious can go to work right away and do everything possible to help you successfully reach your goals.

So I’m going to lead you through a series of questions to ask yourself when creating your personal goals that will help you achieve them! 

Let’s get started!

 

1) What Is The Specific Outcome You Want?

The first step to creating your personal goals is to get super clear on exactly what you want.

The subconscious mind needs specificity, and it doesn’t process negatives. 

If I tell you not to think of a blue dress, you can’t help but think of a blue dress… this is because your subconscious mind has to pull up a picture of a blue dress to even know what not to think about.

The same way, if your goal is phrased as “I don’t want any more debt,” you’re still putting all of your focus and energy towards the debt… which will often attract more debt to you.

Remember, when you think about something that you want, that’s how the creation process begins… and when you think of something that you DON’T want, you’re participating in that creation process as well!

So if one of your personal goals is to be debt-free, it would be better to set a money goal that allows you to pay off your debt and see a positive balance in your bank account. What would that number be?

Think about what you do want.

Be as specific as possible.

Make it clear in your mind.

How To Set Personal Goals

What would you ask for if you knew the answer would be YES?

What would you see?

Hear?

Feel?

I remember when I first thought about creating the YES SUPPLY METHOD, and I began forming the idea, expanding on it, and feeling the energy of it.

I could see a room of smiling faces. 

I could hear my students saying how much the training was helping them grow. 

I could feel the fulfillment of seeing YES SUPPLY coaches go out into the world to help others.

Now, those images, sounds, and feelings are all part of my everyday reality — and it all started in my mind!

So picture yourself in your dream life, having already achieved your personal goals.

What does the energy feel like?

What sights and sounds are you experiencing?

Who are you impacting? What kinds of things are they saying? 

If you can put yourself in this vision, you can start to create it!

 

2) What Is Your Present Situation?

When you’re setting personal goals, it’s important to take note of where you are now in order to determine how you’ll get where you’re going.

If you ask me how to get to California and I just say, Drive south,” that advice won’t be very helpful if you’re in Mexico. It matters where you are now.

So for each of the personal goals that you set, you have to start by looking at your present situation:

Where am I now in relation to my goal?

Why am I here?

What steps have I taken?

What are my results?

Then, you can start to map out the action steps to get where you want to go. You’ll often find that you’re actually further along than you realize!

If you know anything about the Universal Laws, this is where the Law of Action comes into play.

The Law of Action states that in order to manifest things in physical reality, we must engage in actions that support our thoughts, dreams, emotions, and words.

Everyone talks about the Law of Attraction, but there is no attraction without action.

It’s not necessarily about working harder, but your dream client won’t find you if you’re lying in bed all day and not putting yourself out there.

So start creating your action plan by asking:

What would I need to do differently to achieve my goal?

What steps can I take right now?

Who would I need to be and what would I need to learn to reach my outcome?

Creating an action plan will be different for everyone, but once you’ve created your specific goal, your subconscious will start working on it right away. 

You’ll start receiving divine downloads and ideas of how to get there. 

There is often time involved, but as long as you put those ideas into action, you’ll be on your way to achieving your goal.

Remember, you have all the tools you need to be successful!

 

3) How Will You Know When You’ve Reached Your Goal?

The next step that most people miss when setting personal goals is to envision what it will look like when that goal is achieved.

In NLP, this is what we call the finding the evidence procedure.

In other words:

How will you know when you’ve achieved your goal?

Will you see a certain number in your bank account?

Will you go to Chanel and buy yourself a new bag?

What will be that symbol that says “Yes, I did it!”?

Our subconscious minds need this specificity.

For example, if you just say, “I want more money,” you could find a penny on the ground and your subconscious would say, “Okay, great, it’s done!”

But if you say, I want to create $10,000 by March 31st,” that’s something your subconscious can work on.

The same way, if one of your personal goals is to attract a relationship, don’t just say, “I want to be in a relationship.” You don’t want to fall into just any relationship!

Get really clear on how you want to be treated, how you want to feel, the kind of person you want to be with… and create a picture in your mind that will show you when you’re in this relationship.

Is there something you imagine doing with this person?

A certain place you’ll go together? 

When you can picture the end result of your personal goals, you’ll be able to get clearer ideas about who you’ll be, how you’ll feel, and what steps you need to take to get there.

 

4) Is Your Goal In Alignment?

An important question to ask yourself when setting your personal goals is:

Am I fully and completely in alignment with achieving this?

A lot of people say, I want more money,” but deep down, if you’re afraid that this will mean less time with family, or too much responsibility, you won’t be in alignment with this goal, and you’ll get in your own way.

This is often because of a beliefs conflict or a values conflict… and it will lead to self-sabotage, procrastination, and self-blame.

So once you’ve set your personal goals, ask yourself if you’ve eliminated all of the things that make you feel like you can’t have it. 

You can start by reframing what might be in your way.

For example, if you want to have your first $10K month, but you have the belief that more money will mean less time with family…

…Can you imagine a life where because you make more money, you can actually spend more time with family? For example, maybe you can take your family on a beautiful trip, or hire more help around the house that frees up your time to spend together.

I used to have a deeply rooted belief that kept getting in my way that If I make more money, people won’t like me.

So I did a regression using a tool I teach in the YES SUPPLY METHOD. I went back to a memory from a past life in the Depression era where I showed up at school with a new dress, and all the other kids beat me up. 

I realized that I had a subconscious fear that if I have nice things, it equals danger.

Once I started looking at all the ways I could celebrate others’ wins and all the examples of others celebrating my wins, it made it easier to move forward and achieve my personal goals.

This is why I’m SO passionate about the tools I teach that help my students and clients make profound shifts at the subconscious level.

If you’re curious about these tools, I have a 5-Day Challenge that you’ll absolutely love. Go check it out to learn deep subconscious mindset techniques, coaching tools, and more NLP secrets.

 

5) What Are Your Resources?

The last step I want you to take when you’re setting your personal goals is to recognize your resources.

What do I mean by that?

Right now, you have resources available to you — both tangible and intangible.

Tangible resources might be money, equipment, or other people, places, and things that are available to support you.

Intangible resources are those that you have within yourself, like your persistence, your desire, and your willingness to take action.

So when you think about your personal goals, start thinking about what you already have available to you and what you already know about yourself that can support your success.

Another way to establish your resources is to find an example of someone who has already achieved your goal, and look at what resources they used to achieve it.

If you see someone else do what you want to be doing, that means you can as well!

So ask yourself, what resources did they have?

Are they great with people? 

An amazing communicator?

Are they generous? 

Do they have a passion and drive to help others?

If you can see those key attributes in others, you can model that in yourself.

I remember when I first set the goal of becoming a successful coach and leader — I saw that the people I wanted to be like were all great public speakers & communicators — so I set out to model that trait. (But this was before I knew NLP, so I had to do it the hard way.)

I practiced by speaking in front of small groups at an weekly event called Toastmasters — that was a resource I had available to me.

Every time I got on stage, I felt like I was going to throw up. I was hot, anxious, and terrified… but I pushed myself through that energetic barrier because I KNEW what was on the other side was my most expansive, expressive self.

If I had known NLP or hypnosis at the time, I would’ve been able to eliminate that fear with a few simple techniques!

Now, I can speak in front of huge audiences no problem. Once I set my mind on that goal and persisted, it was only a matter of time.

Remember that everyone is equal — we all just have different skillsets that we’ve worked on and developed. Nobody comes out of the womb a great public speaker.

If you can see someone doing something amazing, know in your heart of hearts that you are capable of doing it too. It might take practice and late nights. But if you’re willing to dedicate the time and focus, you can achieve all of your personal goals.

Now that you understand how to set personal goals, I want you to do one last thing:

Write your goal out in the present tense, with the specific date you’ve achieved it, and why.

Like this:

It is now (date), and I’m so happy and grateful that I have (achieved goal).

I achieved this because I am (your resources, i.e. creative, resourceful, persistent).

Once you have this sentence, write it on a card and put it somewhere you can see it every day.

Make it more and more real for yourself.

Focus on your goal and keep taking action towards it!

If one of your personal goals is to become a successful coach, the YES SUPPLY METHOD is a one-stop-shop for everything you need. 

Setting Personal Goals

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Reese Evans is the founder of YES SUPPLY INC., who has trained over 1000 coaches in her methods and teachings. She's a mom, and a lover of teaching manifestation, mindset, and helping people all over the world overcome their past and create their best life. Follow along on instagram @yessupply for more behind the scenes.

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